A couple of months ago, we finally decided to end the marriage and go our own ways. This is not a sad thing; actually I think it will be good for each of us individually, and enable us to remain friends as well.
He will be staying in our home. I am moving, but not far away. I'm staying on San Juan Island, which I love and where I have good friends, including him. For the next few weeks, I'll be fixing up my new place, converting the living room to a studio and the dining room to a small living room. I should be all moved and settling in by mid-April.
For those of you who are interested, my new address is:
1785 Douglas Road #4
Friday Harbor, WA 98250,
new phone number: 360-370-7066
Since December, I have not done any beading at all. I just haven't had the energy or heart for it. Don't worry though, beads and I are still an item. Bead mojo will come back when I get into my new studio! In the meantime I've been stitching like a mad woman on my hexie quilt. I'll post about it and show pictures soon. Below is one that shows the border treatment I'm using.
More move information + pictures of new digs
Sometimes, it takes making a decision to realize what I really want. Ever had that happen? Yep, I had been convinced that the mainland move was the right thing. But when the house deal watered out, I felt relief, major relief actually. Examining the feeling made it clear that I really did not want to leave my friends and the security I feel here on the island. Even though there were pros for the mainland, it now seemed I felt more inclined to stay where I am.Funny how the see-saw of making an offer here and then one on the mainland finally showed me where my heart wants to be.
So, I took another look at the house I'd seen previously, and decided to go for it. Now, I own it. Done deal. I am staying on the island, moving during the next couple of weeks to a modular home in what seems like an amazingly friendly modular home park, located 3 miles out of town. Here are a couple of pictures.
My new home! |
The large living room, as shown in this picture, was carpeted, and painted a rather dull brown. I've already replaced the carpet with wood flooring, painted the room a very pale rose, and installed ceiling lighting. This room will be my studio... my art, bead, and stitching haven!!!
The former dining room will be my cozy little living room; and what was the breakfast nook will be quite adequate as a dining room. Everything is currently getting a make-over... paint and new flooring! I couldn't live in a home with white carpets throughout... just not me.
I look forward to being moved and settled... to a bit more serenity... to pursuing my art again. It is in sight!
Blessings to both of you as you go your own ways. I have been there and it is not easy... even when you end up friends. I love your work and you are right the muse will return for you and your beads! Love the quilt!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Marian, for your upbeat comment!
DeleteWow what an exciting time for you, sad the relationship is moving to a different phase, but exciting new path and opportunities for you, both personally and professionally. I wish you well
ReplyDeleteI haven't quite gotten around to thinking of it as "exciting" yet... hope that will happen. Thanks for the well-wishes.
DeleteI am absolutely THRILLED for you, dear friend, and for Robert, too ... I've a feeling that many good things are on both of your horizons and all these changes will evolve into a better sense of well-being for each of you. I love that expression, "...different ways of aging," which can be so true even for non-married relationships like good friends, or siblings.
ReplyDeleteI can't wait to see the Robinesque redo, the claiming of YOU on new territory! And let me reiterate ~ I am at the ready for helping with packing, schlepping, hefting, etcetcetc, should you wish to have some extra hands!! How about a *work party* with the FH gals??? YAY!!
All my best to you, dear Robin. It won't be long now before you & all those beady wonders of yours will be settled down in your new nest, and you'll be beading & stitching up a brand new direction in life. xo
What a super, wonderful friend you are to offer to be in a work party! Thank you! Actually, what I'd really, really like is some assistance with my plants... fertilize, prune... Any day you're free is good, whether or not I'm moved in. Big hugs!
DeleteDid you get my email from a couple of days ago? Did you just LOVE the sunshine today!!!
Just discovered your reply as I was searching for your new phone number. More than happy to assist with plants whenever is convenient. Feeding those rhodies now would be highly beneficial for your upcoming visual enjoyment of bloom-age ;>]]
DeleteWishing you both the best and looking forward to seeing the hexies in person
ReplyDeleteThanks, Kelly ;>}
DeleteYou WILL see the hexies in person one day soon. I'll bring the top into Fabrics Plus when it's finished.
Even good change is stressful. I'm wishing you the best as you embrace it.
ReplyDeleteNice to hear from you, Bobbi! Yep, stressful, but I'm actually doing fairly well with it.
DeleteI'm glad you have been able to put these changes into a positive light. I hope nothing but the best for you. It will be fun personalizing your new home and making it yours. Lots of love.
ReplyDeleteLove back to you, Lisa... Making the place "mine" will take a while, but will be fun.
DeleteRobin,
ReplyDeleteThat must have been a difficult decision for both of you! But it sounds like you're making the right decision. *Hugs.* Here's to new beginnings and all the wonderful, interesting, unexpected things they bring.
Thanks for the hugs! It was difficult and came after 2 years of marriage counseling to try to patch things up. But we're both calm about it, and still friends.
DeleteWhen I got a divorce it was a load off my shoulders to have made a decision. You are lucky that you will remain friends. Of course there is this transition period to go through. I predict that going your own way will be very empowering, as if you need that!
ReplyDeleteHi Ann... I was a load off both our shoulders to do this. Empowering is good, more is better ;>}
DeleteI'm happy for you that you are going to be near your friends, and live in a place you love. AND that you are making it a priority to remain friends. Change can be difficult, but it sounds like you've weathered the worst of it, and it's becoming more calm, peaceful and hopeful.
ReplyDeleteA new chapter in life... I like the sound of that. :-)
And I like the sound of "having already weathered the worst of it"... Thanks!
Deletewishing you all the best in this new chapter...there's something about sewing that is therapeutic and soothing. The quilt will be another beautiful heirloom with much thought and reflection and hope stitched into it. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteYes, indeed, working on the hexie quilt is such a soothing thing for me!
DeleteI bet your hexie quilt won't be finished before you move into your new home. It will be a symbol of the new layer of comfort you are going to build for yourself, with your own colours, shapes and needs. Wishing you a good move.
ReplyDeleteI love your thought that the hexie quilt will be a new layer of comfort! Nope, certainly not even close to being finished, as I will be hand quilting it.... (crazy?)
DeleteI have a blue hexagonal wall hanging in my hall. Made during such a time of transition, it reminds me as I come and go that this is where I have chosen to be. Best wishes as you furnish your new nest.
ReplyDeleteThanks! How nice you have your hexie quilt hanging where you can see it every day. A hallway is a good place for it, where it doesn't fade from direct sun light.
DeleteSometimes there seems so much to get done. If I am really busy i always smile as i remember a friend telling me if you were canoeing on a lake and surrounded by sharks you can only hit them one at a time. Good luck hitting the sharks one at at a time and moving to a better place :)
ReplyDeleteHit one at a time... I like that! Thanks!
DeleteKeep your head up and your mind on your beads and you will find yourself slipping right into place again.
ReplyDeleteBlessings! :-)
Yes, the beads are a carrot hanging from a pole in front of my nose ;>}
DeleteDear Robin, good to hear from you. You sound rather positive. That's good. The cats-to-be haven't changed this week, because I was very busy this week. But the tails are almost finished. Thanks for the address. Lies
ReplyDeleteAm positive! Helps to have support from friends like you ;>}
DeleteOh Robin..... change is always at least a little stressful and difficult even if we know in our hearts its the right thing to do. Remember life is too short to be even a little unhappy. I wish you the best and I'm sure that in the months to come things will turn out for the better even thou they may not seem so at the time (I have been through a VERY hurtful separation myself. But came out shining on the other side.) You know all of us wish you the best. Take care....and looking forward to seeing more of your wonderful work. Beautiful grandmother's flower garden quilt!
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Susan! It's good to know you came out shining on the other side... me too, I hope!
DeleteSounds like lots of energy, channelled positively, now that the decision has been taken. All the best to you!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Sabine... It's good to have the major decisions and paperwork behind us now.
Deleteit so sad for me ..
ReplyDeleteWho are you?
DeleteI'm sorry it's sad for you...
Good luck in the next phase of your life. Being friends really does work out. I am good friends with both of my vexes.
ReplyDelete"Vexes"... LOL, that's really cute! I'm calling him my "wasband."
DeleteRobin, I wish you all the best in this next chapter of your life. Your new home looks absolutely perfect for you and I look forward to seeing and reading about your new adventures there. Sending love and big hugs....allie
ReplyDeleteThanks Allie, and hugs back to you... xo
DeleteI'm so happy for you Robin! I wish you all the very best, and endless creativity!
ReplyDeleteEndless creativity... Ooooooh, I like that!
DeleteRobin you are a strong woman!
ReplyDeleteI am excited for you.
Love Brenda
Yeah, Brenda... by the time I move all my blankety-blank stuff, I will be strong, LOL...
DeleteSending hugs to you, Robin, as you go through this transition. Wishing only the best for you.
ReplyDeleteThanks... the wishes and hugs keep me in a good space about this!
DeleteWOW, this is such a nice looking place and I am happy that you can stay on your island. Here is to the next exciting chapter of your life.
ReplyDeleteBeadily yours,
Susan Feldkamp
Me too, Susan. I almost didn't... almost took a house on the mainland, but now am very happy about the decision to stay here!
DeleteYou're just around the corner from us! :) Glad to hear you're happily moving into your new life. All the best to you, Robin. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks, Susan! Where are you?
DeleteOne door closes and a window opens!! It seems that you have been having a lot to handle and it will be good for both of you- here is hoping anyway!!! HUGS!! I know that finding a spot just for you will be a wonderful experience for you and your muse will return. So glad that you are able to stay on your beloved island and that you have wonderful community and friends close by to help you on your new adventure, goodness knows you have helped all of them and so many others on their various paths through your artwork and your wonderful words!! you are an amazing friend and I know that many are very ready and willing to see you settled in your new robin's Nest!! Big Hugs!!
ReplyDeleteOh yes, indeed... my new "robin's nest"... I love that! Thanks and big hugs back to you.
DeleteYour new home looks lovely. I can't wait to see it when you're settled. May it be full of joy always.
ReplyDeleteI wish I knew you lived in Friday Harbor! I was there in February and would have loved to have had a chance to meet you. I love your book Heart to Hands. I am a knitter but this is one of the most inspiring books on creativity that I have read. Best wishes for the new direction in your life. Maybe we will get to meet some day but know that your work is inspiring in more ways than you could have imagined!
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely comment! Made my day to hear from you.... If you ever return to Friday Harbor, give me a jingle... I'm in the phone book... Thank you!
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